

Communication and Conflict Management - Spring 2013
COMM 3000-1 & PACS 3800-1
Syllabus - Spring 2013 - REVISED 4-1-13 See Below:
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April 1 Announcement: There is no class on April 16 (I will be in DC) so I am adjusting the schedule from now until the end of that week to make up for this change. We will be back on track on April 18, when there is a short MANDATORY assignment due.
The Basics:
Instructor: Dr. Heidi Burgess
Contact Info: heidi.burgess@colorado.edu; Phone: East Campus 303-492-1635; Norlin: 303-492-6708
Class Time and Location: T/R 2:00- 3:15 pm VAC 1B90
Main Campus Office: Norlin Library Room S423 It is hard to find--click on the room number to get directions.
East Campus Office: ARCE - room A222. (Second floor, south side of building). It is not that hard to get to--the Stampede bus stops right just east of the building. See Map. (This is where I am most of the time.)
Office Hours: Norlin: Tuesdays, 1-2pm & 5-6 pm. Other times available by appointment (other times will usually--but not always-- be on East Campus).
Course Web Sites:
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Syllabus and online readings available at: http://pacs-courses.colorado.edu/pacs_courses/pages/conflictmanagement-spring2013
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Grades and the dropbox are available on D2L.
Required Texts:
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William Wilmot and Joyce Hocker. Interpersonal Conflict, Eighth Edition. Note: While the print edition of this book is available in the bookstore, an online edition is also available at www.CourseSmart.com. This online edition is about 30% less expensive than the paper edition. While earlier editions of this book are also available for considerably less money, much as has been changed and an entirely new chapter has been added. If you decide to get an older edition, you may not have access to all the material that will be covered on the tests. I refer to this as book as "W&H" below.
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Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen, Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. I refer to this as "SPH" below.
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Many days also have additional required readings which appear as links in the course schedule.
Course Design and Expectations
Course Content and Focus:
The course will focus particularly on nonviolent and de-escalatory communication, facilitation, negotiation, mediation, arbitration, and reconciliation, among other approaches. We will examine when each of these approaches is useful and when not, different ways they are done, how to do them effectively, and what the costs and risks are of each.
Class Structure:
While there will be some lecture time, a fair amount of class time will be spent practicing skills in role plays and other small group activities. The amount you learn in these group activities will be highly dependent on (1) your preparation (having done required reading before hand) and (2) your level of effort. In past semesters, somewhere between 1/3 and 1/2 of the students do not take the group activities seriously, and just "go through the motions," doing the minimal amount possible to "get by." Although I don't know for sure, it seems very likely that these are the students who report at the end of the semester that the course was a total waste of time and they didn't learn anything. Other students report that the course was one of the most valuable they have taken in their 4 years here--which is (of course) the feedback I am trying to acheive. So if you want to learn from this course, you need to put in considerable effort. You need to do the readings on time, engage in the roleplays and discussions seriously, and work hard and consistently on the journal and papers. I will do all I can to make this interesting and fun, but
ultimately, the amount you learn will be directly proportional to the amount of effort you put into this course.
Reading expectations:
Students are expected to complete the reading before the assigned class day, although I am a pragmatist and I know that this won't always happen. If readings are essential for a particular days' activity, they are starred, otherwise, you can "get away" with waiting a few days to complete the readings. But unless the readings are listed as "optional," they are necessary for either the tests, the papers, or both. The tests are heavily based on readings--if you don't do them at all, you should not plan on passing the course.
Use the guidelines for what to learn as you read! Each week has study questions at the top of the week. These draw from the readings and from class activities (lectures and groups), but much of the material covered is found in the readings. I also often have put what to look for next to the readng listings themselves.
Written Assignments:
Everyone needs to earn eight "writing credits," which can be earned by any combination of journal entries and directed essays.
Journal entries need to be focused on the content (reading, lectures, and class activities) from a particular week. The purpose is to apply the week's ideas to "the real world"--either a conflict or conflicts of your own, or one in the news--an international conflict (such as Syria), a national conflict (such as gun control or gay marriage), a business conflict (such as the NHL strike) or a local conflict (such as the conflict in Boulder over where one can ride mountain bikes, and where one cannot). More details about journals can be found here, along with sample journal entries, and suggested questions to answer (but these are just suggestions, not requirements.) Journal entries are worth one "writing credit" and are due one week after the week they refer to. Exact due dates are listed on the calendar below.
Directed essays are expected to be longer than journal entries, and they answer a specific set of questions. Again, the purpose is to apply class ideas to the real world (either your own conflicts or ones in the news), but I will give more direction on where to go--specific questions you need to answer--and you need to go into more detail (and more length) than is expected from a journal entry. Directed essays are each worth 2 "writing credits." The list of directed essay options and due dates is linked here.
So, in order to earn 8 writing credits, you need to complete either:
- 8 journal entries (and no directed essays)
- 6 journal entries and one directed essay
- 4 journal entries and two directed essays
- 2 journal entires and three directed essays
- 4 directed essays (and no journal entires--the journal entry that you already did, before the revisions to the syllabus were made,-will count as extra credit.)
- Write in a common word processing format: .doc, .docx, or .rtf. Do not send me "pages" files. I cannot open them!
- Please name your file according to the following convention: lastname-assigment id.filetype (.doc, .docx whatever) For example: (jones-journal-wk3.doc).
- Also put your name on the file itself.
- Upload the file to the D2L dropbox, taking care to put it in the right folder. (If it is in the wrong folder, I won't see it.)
- Also make sure you get a confirmation--if you don't it probably didn't gro through. If you have trouble with D2L, send it via email to heidi.burgess@colorado.edu. Look for a confirmation from me within 24 hours. If you don't get one, send it again.
- Save a copy on your computer, just in case something still goes wrong.
Additional MANDATORY Writing Assignments:
There are several more mandatory writing assignments of various kinds. There is a major GROUP project, an associated individual process assessment of the group project, an email negotiation analysis (which some of you will do individually and some in teams of two), and two very short writing assignments which are preparatory exercises for in-class discussions and exercises. Details on each of these is given below.
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Major Group Project: There will be one group project to be completed during the second half of the semester.
- This is a practical application paper where you apply the theories you are learning in the course to a practical problem. Instructions for that project are linked here.
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Groups need to contain at least three people, but they may not contain more than five. This is because these projects serve two purposes.
- The first purpose is to learn the substance of the topic being addressed.
- The second is to practice dispute prevention, management, and negotiation. All group projects require negotiation: what the topic is, who does what, by when, what happens when someone doesn't do their part, what happens when people disagree on content, quality issues, etc. Learning how to prevent disputes and resolve them when they do occur is part of the learning experience of this assignment.. (For some suggestions on how to handle the minefield of group projects, check out this guidebook we prepared a number of years ago.)
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Group Process Analysis Paper: This paper is written individually, shortly after the group paper is turned in. Here you reflect on the group process of the major group paper--what worked well, what didn't, what you might do differently next time, what you learned about successful working in team situation. Details for what is expected on the group process papers is provided here.
- Email Negotiation Analysis: The paper is your reflection on your email negotiation assignment. During Weeks 11 and12, you will conduct a negotiation--by email--with someone from another course in another university. In addition to doing the standard negotiation "stuff," you will need to try to get to know the person you are negotiating with and make an assessment of their style, trustworthiness, etc. In addition to turning in your actual email stream (hence the transcript of the negotiation), you will need to write a short paper analyzing the negotiation process. Details of the email negotiation are posted here.
- Conflict Styles Assignment - This short self-quiz and paper is due before class Thursday Feb. 7. Directions are found here.
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Labor Dispute Mediation/Arbitration Assignment. This is a prepartory assignment for the in-class exercise on April 18. Therefore, it needs to be turned in before class on that date. Directions are found here.
Class Participation:
Since active engagement is so critical to learning in this class, "class participation" is a significant part of your grade. Your participation grade will be based both on your individual participation and your small group scores.
- Attendance: Since so much of this class is based on exercises and simulations that you cannot get notes for, or experience any other way, attendance is very important. I do not grade attendance per se, but if you miss group activities, you will lose that day's group score. If you have an excused absence, make up opportunities will be available, but you must ask for your make up assignment within one week of the missed class, and turn it in within one week after I send it to you. If you are late asking for it, or late returning it, the maximum you can get on a makeup is 50% of the score you otherwise would have earned. I drop the lowest two group scores, however, so everyone has two "free" absences.
Classroom Rules:
We will often be talking about controversial and/or personal subjects (e.g., personal conflict experiences), so respectful communication is essential in this class. We will discuss what that means early on, but basically it means attentive listening, and caring responses. We will certainly have differing opinions on topics, but those should be raised as alternative valid ideas, not as competitive "better" ideas. Further information of classroom behavior corresponds to the campus-wide rules which are listed at the bottom of this syllabus.
One further classroom rule: I strongly prefer that students not use electronic equipment during this class, unless you have a special dispensation from Disability Services. That means no laptops, no cell phones, no texting, etc. However, several people have asked if they could plese take notes with their computers--they do much better that way. I agreed, but insisted that they sit up front, so it is harder to "zone out" watching a movie (as tends to sometimes happen in the back). I still insist that no computers be used during group time, except for the notetaker/scribe who may use a computer to do that--and then email me the notes at the end of class. If I noticeviolations of this policy, you will get a 50% penalty on your day's group score for the first violation. Any violations after that are 100% penalties.
Tests:
There are two tests--a midterm and a final--and the final is cumulative. The midterm is worth 10% of your grade, the final 15%. Study questions for both exams are posted on this syllabus below (the questions for each week are listed in the course schedule for that week.)
Grading:
In general, I come fairly close to following the standard CU grade distribution, which is:
A 93% and above C 73 – 76.5%
A ‐ 90 – 92.5% C ‐ 70 – 72.5%
B + 87 – 89.5% D + 67 – 69.5%
B 83 – 86.5% D 63 – 66.5%
B ‐ 80 – 82.5% D ‐ 60 – 62.5%
C + 77 – 79.5% F 59% or below
That said, I also grade on a curve, and look for "breaks" in the distribution, so these numbers may not stick exactly at the end. A person with a 91. 5 might get an A; or a person with 93 might get an A-. You are safest if you do as well as you can--don't aim for a "just passing" or "just what I need" grade and then quit working. That can come back and haunt you!
As for grading individual items, such as papers, journals, or essays (on tests), I follow these general guidelines, with more specific rubrics for individual items.
A = Excellent...greatly exceeds the minimum requirements, illustrating excellent understanding, careful work, and creativity.
B = Good…goes beyond the minimum requirements to a fair degree.
C = Average…meets the minimum requirements of the assignment
D = Poor...only meets some of the minimum requirements of the assignment
F = Failing...does not meet most of the minimum requirements of the assignment
Writing Quality: It is impossible to earn an A from me on any assignment if that assignment is poorly written and/or proofread. In general, I grade the ideas, and then if the writing is poor, I will subtract one full letter grade from the "content" grade. (I am more lenient, however, with people for whom English is not their native language. If this applies to you, please let me know.)
I'll warn you right now about two of my serious pet peeves that are widespread: forming plurals with apostrophes..."two assignment's" [wrong!] instead of "two assignments" [right] , and using "I" and "me" incorrectly: "Shirley and me went to the mall" [wrong].... or "she gave the paper to Shirley and I".[also wrong]. I is the subject --the actor; me is the object, the thing which is acted upon.
Lastly, group papers need to read like one paper, not 3, 4, or 5 papers loosely stitched together. That doesn't mean that everyone needs to write in the same style, nor does the editor need to correct style differences. But the sections should flow clearly in a way that makes sense, and duplication (and gaps) should be avoided when possible. You might each proof each other's work, or assign one person the task of doing a final proofing/editing job for the entire work.
Late papers: Papers are penalized 10% for each 24 hours they are late, unless you have worked out alternative arrangements with me in advance. This, you should know, however, is going to be hard to do. For the group projects, you have lots of time, and lots of ways to distribute the workload. So if one person is slammed with work one week, negotiate an agreement which enables them to work less on the group project that week. With this much time and this many people, you should have more flexibility to work things out among yourselves. On the journals, you are supposed to be writing one (or more) entries per week, so if you have an emergency right before the journal is due, the maximum you should be short is that week's entry. If you try to negotiate an extension for the entire period, I am going to be very unlikely to respond positively.
More caveats on grading:
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I only grade end results--the product. I do not grade effort or intentions, nor do I give grades because people need them. You have to earn them.
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I far prefer to discuss assignments before they are due. After they are due, there is little I can do to help you, other than explain my decisions.
POINT DISTRIBUTION CHART:
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Grading "Event" |
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Midterm |
100 |
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Final Exam |
150 |
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Writing Units: 30 points each, for 240 total |
240 |
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Group Paper: 100 group points, plus 50 individual points |
150 |
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Group Process Analysis |
50 |
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Email Negotiation Analysis |
50 |
| Conflict Styles Essay | 30 |
| Labor Conflict Essay | 30 |
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Participation: Individual |
100 |
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Participation: in Groups |
100 |
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TOTAL |
1000 |
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ASSIGNMENT DUE DATES:
J= Jounal; DE = Directed Essay
| Week | Month | Mon | Tues | Wed | Thur | Fri |
| 1 | Jan | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 |
18 Per. Intro due |
| 2 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 |
25 J 1 on Week 1 due @ 5 pm |
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| 3 | 28 | 29 | 30 | 31 |
Feb 1 J2 on Week 2 skipped |
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| 4 | Feb | 4 | 5 | 6 |
7 Con. Styles Due |
8 J 3 - on Week3 in dropbox at 5 pm |
| 5 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 |
15 J 4 - on Week 4 OR DE 2 on TRIP Goals both in dropbox 5 pm |
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| 6 | 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 |
22 J 5- on Week 5 OR DE 3 on Emotions both in dropbox by 5 pm |
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| 7 | 25 |
26 Midterm! In class, bring blue book |
27 | 28 |
M1 J6 on Week 6 OR DE4 on Power both in by 5 pm |
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| 8 | Mar | 4 | 5 | 6 |
7 Group Project Assigned |
8 J7 on Week 7 by 5 pm |
| 9 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 |
15 J 8 on Week 8 by 5 pm |
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| 10 | 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 |
21 J 9 on Week 9 |
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| SB | 25 | 26 | 27 | 28 | Nothing due this wk | |
| 11 | Apr | 1 | 2 Email negotiation assigned today | 3 | 4 |
5 J10 on Week 10 OR DE 5 on Negotiation in dropbox by 5 pm |
| 12 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 |
12 J11 on Week 11 Last Day to Turn in DE1- Active Listening & I-messages in dropbox by 5 pm |
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| 13 | 15 | 16 | 17 |
18 Mandatory Labor-Management Assignment due before class. |
19 J12 on Week 12 in dropbox by 5 pm |
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22 Group Project Due 9am today -- One person post paper; others post note (in dropbox) saying which group you were in. That will enable me to return the paper to you via the dropbox. |
23 | 24 | 25 |
26 J 13 on Week 13 Individual Process Assessment of Group Project Due in dropbox @ 5 pm. |
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29 Email Negotiation Due 9am today in dropbox |
30 | May 1 | May 2 |
May 3 J 14 on Week 13 OR DE 6 on Apology/For. in Dropbox by 5 pm |
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| Final | SAT May 4 1:30-3:30 |
Weekly Schedule
Week 1: Jan 15 & 17. Why are we here? Why I teach this class and why you might want to take it. (The "needs" statement.)
Study Questions: At the beginning of each week you will find several questions which highlight the primary things I am trying to teach and hope you will learn this week. These questions will draw from the readings, the lectures, and the in-class activities. If you know the answers to these questions, you will be all set for the midterm and final--some of these questions will appear verbatim; others will ask you to apply the same concepts to a real or fictional story.
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How do W&H define conflict? Give two examples of conflicts at the interpersonal, workplace, community, national, and international levels.
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Name several costs of conflict at each of these levels (interpersonal, workplace, community, national, and international.)
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Does conflict ever have benefits? If so, what are they? Give a concrete example at each level (interpersonal, workplace, community, national, and international). Can you think of any benefits that are not mentioned in the article?
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What do W&H mean by "the four horsemen of the apocalypse?" Name the four horsemen and give two examples of each one--at different conflict levels (interpersonal, workplace, community, national, and international). Why do W&H call these behaviors "the four horsemen?"
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What are escalatory spirals and avoidance spirals? How are they different? What are the effects of each?
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What are the three types of conflict knowledge? How do they relate to each other? (Lecture only)
Readings (Due Thursday):
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W&H Chapter 1 - I have scanned at least the critical parts of this chapter and have posted them on D2L for waitlisted students who do not want to buy the book.
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Levine: The Many Costs of Conflict
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http://costofwar.com - play around with the "location" choices and the "tradeoffs" button. Get a feeling of what we could have had as a country, had we not gone to war in Iraq or Afghanistan--or if we would have ended those wars sooner. Was it worth it? Are your own conflicts "worth it?"
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Benefits of Conflict
In-Class Activities:
- T: Nuts and Bolts; Conflict Synonyms - Group 1
- Th: Nature, costs, and BENEFITS of conflict - Group 2
Writing Assignments:
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Personal Introductions (Due Fri. Jan 18 by 5:00 pm): Please write a short essay introducing yourself. Tell me if you have a nickname you prefer I use, one or two interesting things about yourself, why you signed up for this class and what you hope to get out of it, and any other things you would like me to know about you. Submit it to the drop box by 5:00 pm January 18. This isn't graded, but students who don't do it are giving me a hint that they aren't very interested in this class--not a good way to start out if you are seeking a good grade!
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Start your conflict journal. You need to have at least one entry for this week which applies any of the ideas from this week's readings or the lecture(s) to your life or conflicts in the news. See these suggestions for ideas of things to write about and these two sample entries. This week's entry needs to be submitted individually to the Journal #1 dropbox by 9 am next Tuesday. That will enable me to give feedback quickly to make sure you are "on the right track" for your other journal entries, which will be handed in in "batches" of four.
Power Points and Handouts - Note: These links will not work until shortly before the appropriate week, as I won't upload the power points until I have updated them from last semester. But I left the titles in to make it easier for me to link them up later.
Week 2: Fundamental Skills
Study Questions
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Explain the "lens model" of conflict in your own words with a real world example.
- Explain the key elements of empathic listening--how is it done? When is it appropriate to use it and why? Is it ever INAPPROPRIATE to use?
- Explain what "I-messages" are. When are they appropriate to use and why? When are they INAPPROPRIATE to use?
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Name at least four ways that communiation can lead to conflict, or make it worse. (What do W&H Chapters 1&2, and SPH all have to say about this question?)
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Name at least four substantive factors that can lead to or escalate conflicts--even when communication is excellent.
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Explain what facilitation is, how it is done, in what settings, and why it is useful. Note: I didn't ever do the lecture on facilitation, but we will still practice it--not for a grade--and it is a very useful skill to have. So this reading is still required, as is the study question.
Readings:
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Due Tuesday:
- Empathic Listening - note: this is also called "active listening" and is a fundamental c/res. skill everyone should know and practice as much as possible. On Tuesday, we are going to have a guest speaker, Tom Sebok, from CU's ombuds office, who is going to talk about active listening, I-messages and other key elements of constructive (and destructive) conflict communication. You will get more out of his lecture if you have read this and the next essay before class.
- I-messages
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W&H pp. 56-69 (rest of Chpt 2 is optional) Focus on the "lens" theory of conflict.
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Due Thursday
- SPH: Introduction and Chapter 1 - This lays out the key ideas of the book that we are going to revisit over and over again throughout the semester.
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Causes of Conflicts and Disputes - In class this week we are going to focus on communication (or lack thereof) as a cause of conflict. But there are many substantive causes too--this article highlights those. While we may not discuss this article much in class this week, it will relate to your first group paper assignment a lot!
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Facilitation - this is another key skill, particularly in the business world. We are going to start practicing it in groups this week, and for the rest of the semester. See note above (this is still "test-able" material, even though we didn't discuss it in class).
- Tue: Tom Sebok guest lecture on conflict communication - No groups
- Thurs: Collaborative Problem Solving- 3 Day Exercise to Negotiate New Class Structure - No groups
Written Assignments:
- Your first conflict journal entry is due in the dropbox by 9 am this Tuesday. (This is the entry relating to LAST week.)
Power Points and Handouts:
Week 3: Jan. 29 and 31st : Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS)
Study Questions
- Note, since I deterred from the original topics for this week, the study questions are based on the in-class exercise, plus the reading on facilitation that had been assigned last week, as that became relevant in class this week. You might find it also useful to read the essay on Consensus Building (a synonym for collaborative problem solving) if the class discussion isn't enough to answer these questions.
- What is CPS? What is it used for and why? (What are the benefits of CPS)?
- What are the costs of CPS?
- What are the steps of CPS?
- What is the role of the facilitator in CPS?
- In what contexts is CPS used?
Readings - We didn't discuss these this week, but I'm hoping you still read them, because I really can't keep to 30 pp per week if these don't stay attached to this week!
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W&H Chapter 3
- SPH: Chpts 2-4, pp. 25-82
In-Class Activities:
- T: Continued Collaborative Problem Solving - No groups
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R: Completion of the Collaborative Problem Solving Activity - No groups.
Written Assignments:
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None this week, though journal entry ( J#2) on last week will be accepted.
Power Points:
Week 4: Feb. 5 and 7: Conflict Goals (TRIP) Tues; Conflict Styles (Thurs)
Study Questions
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What are the "TRIP" goals? Give examples of each kind of goal. (I might also give you a story and ask you to identify the disputants' goals in the story.)
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What is the relationship between interests and positions? Give an example of a stiuation (real or hypothetical) in which a person's interests and positions are different. (I might also give you a story and ask you to identify the disputants' interests and positions in the story.)
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How do goals affect a conflict's destructive or constructive character?
- How does the "what happened conversation" in SPH relate to TRIP goals? Given what you read in the introduction, can you see TRIP goals in either of the other layers of conversation, even before you have read those sections of the book? (If I ask this on a test, I will word the question differently...just aksing how TRIP goals relate to the three different layers of difficult conversations.)
- What are the 5 conflict styles? Be able to name them and describe them.
- Explain what the advantages and disadvantages are of each style.
- Explain which style is best to use when, and worst to use when.
Readings - We are talking about last week's readings this week, plus a much abridged version of the original plan for this week. So if you didn't do last weeks' readings already, please do them now. Together, they are much longer than 30 pp, I know, but they are essential. Plus SPH reads fast.
In order to get caught up, we also need to do a quick conflict styles unit on Thursday, which has another absolutely essential few pages of reading and writing. IF YOU ONLY DO ONE READING THIS WEEK, MAKE IT THE CONFLICT STYLES READING/WRITING FOR THURSDAY! All the readings are described below.
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For Tuesday:
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W&H Chapter 3 Goals and Interests- Priority 2 - Focus on:
- what TRIP stands for and how you can identify each of those kinds of goals;
- the difference between interests and positions (review from last week)
- collaborative goals (what are they and how they relate to collaborative problem solving
- SPH: Chpts 2-4, pp. 25-82 - Priority 3 Focus on how to sort out the different elements of the "what happened" conversation- the role of stories, the difference between "intent and impact," and the difference between "contribution and blame." This is the "set up" for next weeks conversation on emotions.
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W&H Chapter 3 Goals and Interests- Priority 2 - Focus on:
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For Thursday - Conflict Styles Priority 1
- W&H Chapter 5 pp. 144-148 is required; rest of that chapter is optional. (We will discuss this in class, but you may find it useful to read if you can't answer the study questions relating to conflict styles after the class discussion.)
- As part of this "reading," fill out the conflict styles questionnaire on pp. 146-148 TWO TIMES for two different people, and calculate your scores.
- Then write 1 - 2 pages discussing your scores. Do they seem to confirm what you already thought? Why? Did they surprise you? How? Do you see any differences in your scores between the two people you considered? Why do you think that happened? If you have pretty steady scores, do you think that is good? Why or why not?
- Try putting this assignment in the D2L Conflict Styles Score dropbox, but also bring a typed and printed copy of your scores and essay to class as a backup--and to use for the class discussion. Then hand it in at the end of class just in case D2L goes down again!
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Things you want to read for and understand from this unit are:
- what the five different conflict styles are;
- which YOU use when.
- We will discuss the advantages and disadvantages of each, which is best to use when, and which work well together AND NOT in class.
- T: Discussion of Interests and Goals -
- R: Conflict Styles Discussion
Written Assignments:
- Mandatory: Conflict Styles Scores and Essay is due in the dropbox at noon on Thursday Feb 7 (if D2L is up) AND on paper in class Feb. 7. This is mandatory, and is worth 30 points. Immediate 50% penalty if it is late.
- Optional journal 3 due 5 pm Friday.
Power Points:
Week 5: Feb. 12 and 14 - Emotions
Study Questions
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What are the costs of hiding feelings when you are in a conflict?
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How do SPH suggest you handle feelings more constructively?
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What do they mean by "negotiating with your feelings?"
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What is the role of identity in difficult conversations? What are SPH's "three core identities?"
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What do SP&H suggest you do when your identity is threatened?
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Why do people make "irrational" decisions? What can/should be done about it?
Readings (due Tues.)
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SPH: Chpr 5 and 6 (50 fast-reading pages) Focus on:
- Why emotions are a critical part of all difficult conversations (and cannot be ignored or hidden)
- How to "complexify" your feelings
- The difference between feelings and attributions/judgements/accusations
- What it means to say you should "negotiate with your feelings."
- What are the three "core identities"?
- What to do to protect your identity.
- W&H Chapter 6 (Optional--I don't much like this chapter, but has some interesting material in it. I won't test from it.)
In-Class Activities:
- Tues - Discussion of Emotions - 3 levels - Group 5
- Thurs - Cont. Discussion of emotions and Angry Customer Video - no group.
Written Assignments:
- Optional J4 (on week 4) due 5 pm Fri.
- Optional Directed Essay #2 on TRIP goals also due Fri 5 pm.
- Note: Do one or other, not both.
Power Point:
Emotions & ConflictWeek 6: Feb. 19 and 21 Power
Study Questions:
- What is power in a conflict situation? Is it good or bad--and why?
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How does one obtain power (that is, what are the "sources" of power or what W&H call "power currencies"?) Be able to recongize someone's power currencies in a fictional or true story.
- What are the three primary ways power is expressed in conflicts (what I call "power strategies") ? (Kenneth Boulding calls these the "three faces of power"; W&H call them types of power?) Be able to recognize such strategies in a fictional or true story--or explain a situation yourself when each of the power strategies might be used.
- What is the "power strategy mix?" Again, be able to give or recognize an example in a story.
- What is the difference between a warning ahd a threat? What are the advantages and disadvantages of using threats? Be able to recognize or give examples.
- How do the concepts of revenge and backlash relate to power? (Answer generally and give examples)
Readings (due Tues.)
W&H Chapter 4 (40 pp) Focus particularly on:
- Either/or power and Both/And power
- The two triangles illustrated on pages 106-107
- Power Currencies (RICE) (118-121)
- Strategies for Power Balancing (pp 131-142)
- Understanding Power (Focus on sources of power (equivalent to power currencies), power strategies, and the power strategy mix
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Revenge and the Backlash Effect (focus what stimulates revenge and backlash, how to avoid it and how to estimate it ("the backlash coefficient).
In-Cass Activities:
- TBD
Written Assignments:
- Optional J5 (on week 5) due 5 pm Fri.
- Optional Directed Essay #3 on emotions also due Fri 5 pm.
- Note: Do one or other, not both.
Power Point:
Power & ConflictWeek 7: Feb. 26 and 28: Midterm (T) Group Project Assigned (R)
Study Questions: No new ones, just review.
Readings - None this week - just review.
In-Class Activities:
- T: Midterm
- R: Group Project Assigned
Written Assignments:
- Optional J6 (on week 6) due 5 pm Fri.
- Optional Directed Essay on Power also due Fri 5 pm.
- Note: Do one or other, not both.
Week 8: - March 5 and 7 - Negotiation - Part II
Study Questions:
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What is negotiation? What is it used for? When is it used?
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According to Leah Thompson, why do people tend to be bad negotiators? Are you any different?
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List assumptions and communication elements of competitive negotiation.
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When is competitive negotiation appropriate? Not appropriate? Why?
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Explain the term "bargaining range." How do you determine what that range is?
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What does the term "BATNA" mean? (Don't just tell me what it stands for, but show me that you know what it MEANS.) Why is it critical to know your BATNA before you negotiate? What is the advantage of a strong BATNA? What should you do if you have a weak BATNA or none at all?
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What does Lewicki advise as guidelines for effective competitive negotiation?
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List the advantages and disadvantages of competitive negotiation.
Readings -
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Part I of The Mind and Heart of the Negotiator - Why People are Bad Negotiators. - Note: This is a LARGE pdf that takes a long time to load--but it does load. So please give it a few minutes. Sorry!
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W&H Chapter 8, part I (pp. 244-255)
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Competitive Negotiation - File provided on D2L -- please log in to get it. There is a pdf, but it also is a large file, so give it a minute or so to load. If you find the print too small (I did on one computer, not on another), try the power point version, also posted on D2L.
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"Haggling at Megastores" (optional)
In-Class Activities:
- T: Prisoners Dilemma
- R: Prisoner's Dilemma debrief and Distributive Negotiation Practice
Written Assignments:
- Optional J7 (on week 7) due 5 pm Fri.
Power Point:
Prisoners' Dilemma.Negotiation
Week 9 : Mar. 12 and 14 Negotiation - Part III
Study Questions:
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List the assumptions and communication elements of collaborative negotiation
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Give the advantages and disadvantages of collaborative negotiation.
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Can collaborative and competitive negotiation be used together? If so, how? If not, why not?
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What are the seven elements of "principled negotiation?" Be able to apply them to a story or real situation.
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What are the differences between positions, interests, values, and needs? (Be able to identify each in a story.)
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What are the limitations of principled negotiation?
Readings -
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The rest of W&H Chapter 8 (pp. 255 - 270.
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Negotiating with your Boss Note: the original link went bad, but the same article is available at this new location.
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Negotiating Ethics
In-Class Activities:
- Tues: Distributive negotiation roleplays
- Thurs: Inroduction to Integrative negotiation
Written Assignments:
Optional J8 (on week 8) due 5 pm Fri.
Power Points:
Week 10: March 19 and 21 - Negotiation - Part IV
Study Questions: No new ones this week.
Readings:
"How to Screw up an Email Negotiation"
In-Class Activities:
T: Applying principled negotiation
Th: Negotiation strategy choices.
Optional J9 (on week 9) due 5 pm Fri.
Power Point:
Spring Break : March 26 and 28. Note: no journal is required this week, but events often occur during spring break that lend themselves to journal entries. If you want to write one (or a few), they will count for extra credit.
Week 11: Apr. 2 and 4 Wrapping up Negotiation - Starting Third Party Processes (ADR), particularly Mediation
Study Questions:
- What are the advantages of using skilled third parties to help transform or resolve a conflict or a dispute? What are the disadvantages?
- What are the "cautions" W&H advise one remember before intervening?
- Explain what each of the methods listed on pg 276 are, how they differ from each other, and in what situations each is best used.
- What is mediation?
- How is mediation done? (Describe the basic steps.)
- What are the elements of CDR's "circle of conflict?" Be able to identify each of the elements in a particular conflict story I give you.
Readings:
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W&H Chapter 9
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The following are due Thursday: (moved from next Tuesday, since I'm sliding everything up one day)
- Which Dispute Resolution Process is Best?
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Preparing for Your Mediation [from the disputant's point of view]
In-Class Activities:
- T: Planning for the email negotiation
- Th: Introduction to ADR & Mediation - Start Mediation Video ((Important background for next two weeks' activities--try not to miss class if you can avoid it.)
Written Assignments:
- Optional J10 (on week 10) due 5 pm Fri.
- Optional Directed Essay on Negotiation also due Fri 5 pm.
- Note: Do one or other, not both.
- Group Project is due three weeks from Monday: on April 22!
Week 12: April 9 and 11: Mediation Continued
Study Questions:
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What are some of the advantages of mediation over other forms of dispute resolution?
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What are some of the disadvantages?
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How is mediation similar to and different from facilitation?
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How is mediation similar to and different from collaborative problem solving?
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How is mediation similar to and different from negotiation?
Readings:
- Preparing for Your Mediation [from the disputant's point of view]
- When to Mediate
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(optional) Eight Steps to Make Mediation Successful [also from the disputant's point of view]
In-Class Activities:
- T: Finish Mediation Video, then prep for Thursday's role play (if you can't come on Tuesday, be sure to email me so I can send you the scenario. Otherwise you'll have NO IDEA what is going on on Thursday.
- Th: Do the mediation role play and debrief.
Written Assignments:
- Optional J11 (on week 11) due 5 pm Fri.
- Friday is LAST DAY to turn in optional Directed Essay on Active Listening and I-messages
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Second Group Project - due in two weeks on April 22.
Power Point:
Mediation
Week 13: April 16 NO CLASS (Suggestion: meet with your group!) and April 18 Arbitration
Study Questions:
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How is mediation similar to and different from arbitration?
- When is each appropriate to use? Not appropriate to use?
- How does arbitration work? (What does the arbitrator do?)
Readings (Due Thursday, along with the written assignment reflecting on these readings-- see below!)
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Labor Conflict teaching case. This applies to the in-class exercise that we will do on Thursday. See below for the related writing assignment which is due before class on Thursday, or else you can only get 50% credit for it.
In-Class Activities:
- Tues: No class - good time to meet as a group on your group projects!
- Thurs: Arbitration Role Play
Written Assignments:
- Optional J12 (on week 12) due 5 pm Fri.
- One - two page essay due in the drop box BEFORE class on the 18th. - Tell me whether you think the conflict described in the Labor Conflict teaching case (linked above) should be mediated or arbitrated and WHY. (Please don't say it should be taken to court--that is not an option! I will explain why in class.) This is ESSENTIAL to do before class or Thursday's exercise will not make any sense. For that reason, the instant late-penalty is 50%.
- Group Project - due by 9:00 am next Monday the 22.
Week 14: Apr. 23 and 25. Apology, Forgiveness, and Reconciliation
Study Questions:
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When should you apologize? Forgive? Why? When should you NOT? Why?
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What are key components of forgiveness?
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What are the differences between forgiveness and reconciliation?
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What is the problem with the phrase "forgive and forget?"
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What makes apologies effective/ineffective? Appropriate and inappropriate?
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What is the difference between retributive and restorative justice? Name the benefits of each, when each is best used, and what the problems are (if any) of each.
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Explain how victim-offender mediation works and how it relates to other forms of mediation.
Readings:
In-Class Activities:
- Tu: When and how to apologize and forgive
- Th: Restorative Justice presentation and roleplay.
Written Assignments:
- The Group Project is due at 9 am on Monday in the drop box. One person in each group should turn it in, but everyone else must turn something into the dropbox so I can return the paper back to you. Just Log into the dropbox and give me a message that tells me what group you are in and who turned in your paper for you.
- Each person must turn in his or her OWN group process assessment paper by 5 pm Friday, the 26th.
- Optional Journal 13 on Week 13 is also due 5 pm Friday.
Power Point:
Week 15: Apr. 30 and May 2: Third Side
Study Questions:- What is "The Third Side"? How is it different from the standard ADR term "third parties?"
- What are the three categories of third side roles?
- Which roles are in each category? Be able to define and give an example of each - in an interpersonal conflict and in a wider public policy or international conflict.
- Be able to suggest what roles are most useful in different situations.
Readings:
Required
Third Siders - This is the introdctory essay that shows how all these roles link together. I am requiring (and will test on) the introductory article and the following 7 articles (each of which is only a page or two long), and the three other roles are optional--since you know about them already. But Ury talks about them in his own way, and together the form the 10 third side roles that we will be discussing next week.
Providers
Bridge Builders
Equalizers
Healers
Witness
Referees
Peacekeepers
Optional:
Mediators
Arbitrators
Teachers
Power Point:
Third Side
Written Assignments:
- E-mail negotiation transcript and analysis due by 9 am Monday
- Journal 14 on Week 14 OR DE 6 on Apology due 5 pm Friday May 3
- All extra credit and make up assignments are due ABSOLUTELY by class time on May 2. Anything submitted after that will not be graded, except for J14 and DE6.
Week 16: Sat. May 4 1:30 - 3:30 pm
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90 minutes long, you have 2 hours to do it.
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comprehensive,
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but emphasis on material not covered on midterm,
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same format as midterm
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